Back in the day, it was nearly impossible to hold a long distance relationship. While it’s still tough today, you have more options to really stay connected. It’s possible to stay in contact in real time and you can see each other any time you want via Skype. Of course it’s not easy. Your lives really are separate and sometimes that can make you feel lonely. It hurts to be away from the person that you love.
How to make Long Distance Relationship work?
Even if you are able to speak to each other every day, you miss out on the physical aspects of a relationship. To hold hands, eat with each other across a table, going to sleep in the same bed, having a coffee. You miss out on their scent and their kiss. Being far from the person you love can get sad from time to time and you long to just be with them. There are some important thing you can do on a daily basis to make it all seem less painful though. Here are 20 most valuable pieces of advices for a long distance relationship.
1. Don’t Chat too Much
While you may miss your love, trying to overcompensate with hours of chat every day could actually be detrimental to your relationship. You may find yourself stretched as you give so much of yourself. Be invested 100% for a short period of time per day. That’s a lot more effective to show your love.
2. Embrace Independence
This is the time in your life where you have the opportunity to be independent. It is a test of your love and shouldn’t be feared in any way. This is where you get to put faith in something and when you make it through, your love can be stronger than most.
3. Communicate about Expectations
In a long distance relationship, it’s important to be clear of what you expect from your partner and vice versa. Discuss if you will be exclusive throughout your separation and what your level of commitment really is.
4. Be Imaginative
It’s important to wish each other a good day in the morning or a goodnight before bed. Let them know what’s happening in your life. Send pics and videos so your partner can share your life no matter how far away and maintain the feeling that they are loved.
5. Bedroom Chat
You’re probably going to miss the physical aspects a lot when you’re apart. You can creatively talk dirty to one another in order to keep the desire alive. Text and pics with a lot of descriptions can remind you both of what you’re missing and that the hard times are worth it.
6. Avoid Potential Hook Ups
If you go clubbing with friends, be cautious. Don’t allow yourself to get too drunk or get too flirtatious. Just keep in mind how it would feel if your partner cheated on you.
7. Movie Date
Watch the same movie together or maybe play the same game at the same time.
8. See Each Other
Put those air miles to use and visit one another when you can. This is the icing on the cake when you spend a lot of time apart. Imagine how excited you’ll be to kiss, hug and hold each other.
9. Have an End Game
While you can maintain a long distance relationship, there needs to be a time set up where you will eventually be together. Figure out together what it’s going to take to live in the same area and work towards making it happen.
10. Appreciate Where You Are
You may not be with your partner but that doesn’t mean you’re alone. If there are family or friends where you are, spend time with them. Build a life for the time being and do some activities.
11. Be Truthful
There are bound to be some times where you and your partner have negative emotions in your long distance relationship. Talk it through whether it’s fear, insecurity or just feeling really far away. Don’t go it alone, chances are your partner feels the same way sometimes.
12. Schedule Updates
It’s important to know when you can contact your partner. If you text and it takes hours or a day to get a response back, you may start to freak out. They may have been in a conference all day or had another important engagement. To avoid stress or worry, it’s important to let each other know when you’re free.
13. Be Social with Each Other
Social networking will let you in on your partners thoughts and activities. By no means am I suggesting stalking your partner. Just check out their photos and tweets offering messages of inspiration and support.
14. A Memento
Having something solid to hold onto is a nice way to keep your love close to you. It could be a ring, a CD with music that reminds each other of their love. Whatever represents you is something you can give to your partner so they can remember you always.
15. Send Packages
Getting a package or even a letter in the mail means so much. Give each gifts this way and hand write a love letter from time to time.
16. Don’t Give up Hope
While it’s not always easy to be optimistic all the time, it’s important to not lose hope in a long distance relationship. This is where you start to trip up from frustration and potentially make decisions that will ruin the love you have.
17. Be Grateful
Remember all the wonderful things about your partner and continue to be grateful. Imagine if your partner wasn’t in your life at all. Remember how happy their messages make you or how nice it is to be wished a great day everyday.
18. Video Chat
Technology is a beautiful thing so use it. Have video chats from time to time so you can see each other smile.
It’s really important to trust your partner. It may not always be easy but if you don’t, it will eat you up and you’ll likely have to end it.
20. Update Each Other
Tell your partner what’s going on with your family, friends and work. It’s great to have an outside perspective and it’s nice to have someone to vent to from time to time.